Team Madea and a Celeb's crotch

So its black history month....can I first say that I like the man who had the idea for the month thinks that it sucks that people are willing to stick to this one month. He always intended for it to start as a month and branch out...but we black people have helped to contain our history into one month, the shortest month of the year mind you!
Anyways seeing that we are in the month of black then I would like to address two black topics:

1) Tyler Perry
I don't know why so many hate on this man plying his trade. Im personally a fan I LOVE his plays they are funnier than the movies and yes my friends Madea is even more over the top, but I love em. I don't really get why people hate on him and his empire. I've heard that he makes black people look bad because of his buffoonery but I really don't see the difference between him and a Eddie Murphy movie. To appreciate Tyler Perry you gotta look at his work critically. The movies cover a lot of heavy topics. If you took out the comedy and over the top characters you would have a man that makes really deep movies. And while there is nothing wrong with deep movies nobody wants to watch a succession of depressing movies, remember this is about entertaining. With that being said the best way to attract people to a movie that teaches a lesson is to cover it with a layer of side splitting jokes. If you say he always goes over the same topics abuse, drug use and cheating and he doesn't represent black people, i would like to suggest  that he isn't talking to you. Lets stop trying to paint a rosy picture to other races.

There are lots of people being abused, addicted to drugs and involved in other types of scandal. And you know how he reaches these people? He puts in a silly character that keeps them coming back and then he gently inserts a message of hope, redemption and faith. If you can't relate count yourself fortunate. Just give the man a break he isn't making movies about gangsters shooting up the hood or men on a sexual quests. So why not lighten up?!

2) Role models
Rihanna has been coming under a lot of criticism lately because of some of her choices. She and any other celebrity that messes up is judged harshly because they are role models and need to set better examples. Stop the presses.....did they sign a role model application form? First of all as a parent why de ass is your kid listening to Rihanna? Does she sing children's tunes? Why are little girls emulating Nicki Minaj? Wearing pink and calling herself a barbie don't make her kid friendly. I still laugh when i think of the news story about the Parents Council for TV something or the other kicking up a storm about Rihanna's man down video. Apparently it sends the wrong message.....why are kids watching this again???

Parents are what's wrong with the world today not the youth. Why? cuz they are letting the media raise their kids. The media and entertainers have no obligation other than to make $$ to feed themselves. Get a clue parents and show your kids real role models. Tell them about the first black female astronaut so that they can dream big. Tell them about the civil rights women leaders who refused to be treated like animals so that they can raise the standard for themselves. Tell them about the women presidents and nobel peace prize winners so that they can know anything is possible with determination. Don't call up the media when some 21 year old flashes her crotch on a music video, she aint your kid to raise. Children with a strong foundation and sense of self won't be swayed when their fav entertainer goes on a crack binge....


That was my rant for the week......ah i feel sooo much better :)

To Miss Whitney

"When you love someone who suffers from the disease of addiction you await the phone call. There will be a phone call. The sincere hope is that the call will be from the addict themselves, telling you they've had enough, that they're ready to stop, ready to try something new. Of course though, you fear the other call, the sad nocturnal chime from a friend or relative telling you it's too late, she's gone." Russell Brand 

This one hit me so hard that I refused to believe it.  I just can't come to terms with the fact that the woman with the golden voice is gone. Thinking back on my earliest memories of music I can faintly remember my parents having a stereo in the front hallway and my earliest and only memory with this stereo was me and a Whitney Houston song. Every girl I knew who grew up in the 80's and 90's wanted to sing like Whitney. She was undeniably one of the greatest voices of that era. You remember that whole who's better Whitney, Mariah or Celine argument? Whitney always won for me hands down. I mean c'mon this woman remade a song that not only catapulted her into history, but made the original look bad. Find me a girl that has not stood with a fake mic in her hands singing I Will Always Love You, complete with the signature Whitney hand raise and fall at the end of the song.

We all thought that this time she had fought her demons, that this time she was gonna be ok. So I did not expect this call or text or breaking news item. I had refused to believe the tabloids who insinuated that she had slipped back off track. I dismissed them as news vultures who would make the woman's sweaty day into a crack binge side effect.

That voice will forever haunt the airwaves, it had a pureness, a sincereness that made you sing along and have a Whitney day on Youtube. There was a Whitney song for everything, being hopelessly in love, loving your friends, a little strength from God, just a feel good day. I mean who has not turned on 'Where do broken hearts go' and bawled their eyes out? Who has not danced around the room singing 'I wanna dance with somebody'. Who has not taken up a photo of the love of their life and sang 'He's all the man that I need'. The list goes on, my favorite Whitney song goes with my mood, I can't choose.

Under any and everyone of Whitney's songs online amongst the comments of 'I love this song', 'this is my fav jam' and ' i grew up on this' were quite a few 'Please get come back to us Miss Whitney'. We all wanted her back, her family tirelessly fought and did everything under the sun to get her back. But for some reason she did not want this for herself. She could not fight the demons that summoned her back down the path of destruction.

Miss Whitney I will always remember what you said on your last Oprah interview. A life lesson that you left with me, in fact i loved it so much that i wrote it down in the back of my bible. 'I knew God was there. I knew the light was there and I was just trying to get back to it. '
To me it meant that in your darkest of times, no matter how far off the path you have fallen He is always there watching over you, sending a small glimmer of light to help you back.


While I am only speculating on the cause of her death, i have a sad feeling that it corresponds directly with or is a product of her destructive lifestyle.


Whatever it is the world will miss you Miss Whitney, you were one we all prayed for. Not necessarily to sing again or make another hit record but just to be ok, so that you could be that sassy senior citizen belting out notes to make the young ones quiver. 


There is no good in this goodbye, just sad faces and songs on replay .......


RIP always to the woman that made me fall in love with music

The Valentine's Grinch

Many have been questioning where my stance lies on the upcoming commercialized day in February. Like the Grinch who decided to hate Christmas, last year I decided to join his team of holiday hating.......so sue me. Let's get one thing straight, some little Who girl with a funny nose did not sing my little heart unfrozen. What is this day of hearts? Lets examine shall we?

The history of Valentine's Day
Soooo basically nobody is really sure how this whole shebang started! It is alleged, thought, rumored that it had to do with a man named Saint Valentine. He may or may not have protested by marrying couples  against a new law requiring young men to be soldiers and not marry. Or he was possibly jailed for helping tortured Christians and feel in love with the jailer's daughter who he wooed with letters. Therefore Valentine's Day is thought to commemorate his death, they think.
There are some other stories tossed around involving Romans, Pagan festivals, birds mating, fertility, spring......case in point for the opposition nobody knows where this thing came from!
Somewhere along the way the added cupid, roses, lingerie, cards, teddy bears, candlelight and a high dose of sap!

The Modern Valentine's Day 
So upon this day couples are meant to purchase something red, fluffy, sweet, expensive etc. Strangely enough it says 85% of all valentines are bought by women.......so only 15% is by men........word!

Ok but what does the day mean?........
It means that retailers needed some way to boost sales after Christmas. Nobody has money after Christmas has dented your pockets. That sounds about right, I'm sure some old shop keeper in 1855 came across the assorted stories of St Valentine and decided to start peddling cards and flowers.

But seriously what does the day mean?...
Apparently it means that you have right to tell your other half to be romantic....OMG you got me flowers!!!!

And now I'm going to find the most vomit worthy status to place on FB about my over bubbling love, accompanied by the most commercial love songs I can find in a youtube search for love songs! Oh don't forget the couple's pictures *falls on floor from choking on disgust*

Pros 
Remember that part of the Grinch movie where he actually enjoyed the little Christmas festival? Ok here's my turn.
Everything is on special, hey why pass up on the sale!
Dinner discounts, hey if the meals are cheaper eat up people, discounts are hard to come by nowadays!
If you are in love, then spending time with your special one while bathed in red lights and sexy music aint gonna hamper your relationship. Get your groove on aint nothing wrong with a little date.

I think I'm finished with pros teacher.......*puts down hand*

Closing Argument 
In closing your honor, romance should never be cornered into one day. If you only look forward to Valentine's Day to receive attention and gifts then please put down the rose and rethink life. It would be nice to randomly receive a bouquet on a day outside your birthday, anniversary or Valentines. Chocolates are sold year round buy me one on August 8th cuz you heard me say that I'm craving something sweet. I'm just saying here that if you are using Valentine's as a check list item in your requirements to pass for the year then you failed. Valentine's Day should be the garnish you add to a well decorated dish to give it extra flare. Will I do something on said day? Well your honor if a good event/activity comes up with a once a year price, I will consider it based on the fact that I cant pass up a good deal, the company doesn't hurt either. If i don't then.........meh who cares I get chocolates on August 8th. *shameless plug*

Dead Dad's Club

I will always remember watching this scene from Grey's Anatomy, it just struck me when she said, 'Welcome to the Dead Dad's Club'. To others it might sound kind of crass, someone died and you said welcome to the club, say what?
The other day I was in the presence of someone who lost their father. The woman was overwhelmed with all the calls and funeral plans. Another woman in the room said to her 'this will pass, we have all been through this. '  She started pointing us all out, members of the dead dad's club.
Being part of this club means you know what it means to go through the world a little more exposed a little less secure. There is just something about a father that makes you feel protected. And there is no other man in the world that can replace this lost feeling.
I used to get into fights with boyfriends and no matter what sometime afterward I would almost automatically think, if he were only here this would not happen. Irrational i know but the little girl in me always retreated to the place where a man with strong arms would lift me up and put me to bed after falling asleep from crying.
Being part of the dead dad's club means that you have already subscribed to the fact that he will not be there to walk you down the aisle. You have already wondered how you will make that walk without him.
It means that every time that blasted Luther Vandross song plays a lump grows in your throat. People in this club know to switch the chairs around the table so you don't remember someone is missing. It means that at some point when looking through photos from events in your life from graduations and so forth the man that anchors you and protects your side watches on from afar.
You believe this notion that a powerful guardian angel now whispers in the ears of God pleading for your protection.
I guess this post is simply for the purpose of saying if you are not in the club be thankful for the time you stay out of it. And to those who are in it, keep your head up.

Dear Religion......

So last year, although a really good year for me, it was a funny year when it came to religion/spirituality... you know that sort of stuff. I've always had a sort of peace knowing that God/Jesus is somewhere up there and that He knew me and heard my late night mutterings, and on our own terms we had a friendship. I always acknowledged the fact to say thank you and the notion to ask for help when times were rough. Last year for some reason for voices of religious opinion, interpretation and reasoning were extremely loud, nagging and depressing. I kind of felt like i was being told how to be, think and live and if i was outside that box....well my poor soul. In fact at one point i felt that i was not up to scratch. I guess i lost my footing and i let those voices confuse and get to me, making me forget the things I believe and almost just give up. Now this is MY opinion, some may say to each their own, some may pray for my soul (thanks I always appreciate prayers) and some may agree.

Firstly i dont agree or believe in religion it causes more separation than unity. And in religion i also group denominations and anything else that makes people who allegedly believe in the same thing feel divided. With that said although i go to church regularly i don't identify myself in terms of the name on the gate of a building.

I believe that the bible is a good guide book to life. However i think it is highly misinterpreted, tampered with and misused. From what i've grown up seeing the bible is used as a tool of convenience to instruct and control. My biggest problem is that it is used as the only way. You can't tell me that God is all a powerful being and then say that everything he intends for me is captured/explained in 1000 pages, don't sound logical. God is in our essence. The bible is used to justify everything. Oh there's a war- end of days, financial collapse- end of days, hole in the ozone-end of days.......umm how about you start taking care of the earth we were given and stop saying its ending so it doesn't matter....that's crap...its falling apart cuz we don't care. There are many issues outside of the bible/religion that we need to pay attention to instead of making the church a bubble that many people live in. Why were we placed on the earth? *sorry side note*
Remember the movie 'Book of Eli'? Remember how that bad guy was in search of the bible so he could use it to control people? That made so much sense, for in a way that is how it has been used.  I think that people are truly like sheep we need guidance and someone to tell us what to do, where to go, how to act etc. Even if you don't believe in anything there is a prescribed way to atheism. I think we are born with an innate sense to believe in something and to follow. What you believe in and prescribe to depends on what part of the world you grew up in, your race, and your mindset.
I am told we are all sinners, we all make mistakes etc. But it bothers me that some claim to be better than others because they are more 'holy', if sin is sin is sin then what makes you different?

I believe in love, and since God is love then its all the same. Im convinced that if everyone loved each other more friend, foe or stranger the earth would be a better place. If we loved and respected each other there would be no reason to steal, to kill, to abuse or molest. There would be no greed, war or racism.
I am no where near perfect (last i heard no 1 is), some frown at me and give me side eyes and some appreciate me and the light i bring to being around them. I believe, i pray and i have faith. I don't hide who I am or what i do. I don't or can't tell people who is burning in hell and who is going heaven's way. I don't think we have the right to condemn because we are not all knowing. I don't think we should think or talk for God. I think that people should be real and stop hiding behind religion.
I don't know if i'm right or wrong who really know, because everyone thinks they are right. Everyone thinks their way is the right and only way..... *side note* why do we take pleasure in thinking we are right and the people on that side of the world are wrong -nah nah boo boo, ur going down. I think we are all different for a reason.

Ok I've said a lot .....just love, respect and give thanks.

Happy 2012

Happy New year to my readers and friends!
After reflecting on my post 365 days ago and the mindset i planned to have i would like to say, mission accomplished! Green Pastures-check, Blue skies-check, unmeasurable hope-check, check. I think 2011 turned out pretty well for me, and I feel like my faith in the things unseen and hope in the things asked for is what brought me through. And that led to my pretty awesome year.
Dear 2012, there doesn't seem to be a lot of optimism about you. But i don't rest my hope on predictions and statistics. Life is what you make it and i intend to make it awesome. My mantra for this year is to 'Let it Be' i focus too much on trying to figure things out. I try to control things that are completely out of my hands and i try to push for things that are not ready to be......so I'm going to Let it be!
No resolutions really in terms of getting things done things come up, opportunities present themselves and I just need to take them and ride it out.

Once again
Peace & Blessings from the Moondancer
Happy New Year :)

Merry Christmas

Indeed Christmas has become commercialized the fat dude in a suit, merchandising, merchandising, partying, and more merchandising. Yes of course some greedy person always has to come in and spoil a good thing. But that doesn't mean we have to let it overpower the real meaning. Christmas is about pausing to recognize a special event in history whether you agree or not on the time it happened. It's about celebrating a figure that represents LOVE. Christmas should be about love, giving, family, friends and togetherness. It's about not so much about receiving or giving the perfect gift as it is about seeing your loved one smile because you took time out your busy schedule to get something you thought they would like. To me this is what Christmas is about. So for a little while forget about the bills, the recession, the diet and the pile of work you left at your office. Take time to give thanks for this season for the people around you and the love they give.

From me to you I say thanks for the love, God bless and Merry Christmas xoxo