The Valentine's Grinch

Many have been questioning where my stance lies on the upcoming commercialized day in February. Like the Grinch who decided to hate Christmas, last year I decided to join his team of holiday hating.......so sue me. Let's get one thing straight, some little Who girl with a funny nose did not sing my little heart unfrozen. What is this day of hearts? Lets examine shall we?

The history of Valentine's Day
Soooo basically nobody is really sure how this whole shebang started! It is alleged, thought, rumored that it had to do with a man named Saint Valentine. He may or may not have protested by marrying couples  against a new law requiring young men to be soldiers and not marry. Or he was possibly jailed for helping tortured Christians and feel in love with the jailer's daughter who he wooed with letters. Therefore Valentine's Day is thought to commemorate his death, they think.
There are some other stories tossed around involving Romans, Pagan festivals, birds mating, fertility, spring......case in point for the opposition nobody knows where this thing came from!
Somewhere along the way the added cupid, roses, lingerie, cards, teddy bears, candlelight and a high dose of sap!

The Modern Valentine's Day 
So upon this day couples are meant to purchase something red, fluffy, sweet, expensive etc. Strangely enough it says 85% of all valentines are bought by women.......so only 15% is by men........word!

Ok but what does the day mean?........
It means that retailers needed some way to boost sales after Christmas. Nobody has money after Christmas has dented your pockets. That sounds about right, I'm sure some old shop keeper in 1855 came across the assorted stories of St Valentine and decided to start peddling cards and flowers.

But seriously what does the day mean?...
Apparently it means that you have right to tell your other half to be romantic....OMG you got me flowers!!!!

And now I'm going to find the most vomit worthy status to place on FB about my over bubbling love, accompanied by the most commercial love songs I can find in a youtube search for love songs! Oh don't forget the couple's pictures *falls on floor from choking on disgust*

Pros 
Remember that part of the Grinch movie where he actually enjoyed the little Christmas festival? Ok here's my turn.
Everything is on special, hey why pass up on the sale!
Dinner discounts, hey if the meals are cheaper eat up people, discounts are hard to come by nowadays!
If you are in love, then spending time with your special one while bathed in red lights and sexy music aint gonna hamper your relationship. Get your groove on aint nothing wrong with a little date.

I think I'm finished with pros teacher.......*puts down hand*

Closing Argument 
In closing your honor, romance should never be cornered into one day. If you only look forward to Valentine's Day to receive attention and gifts then please put down the rose and rethink life. It would be nice to randomly receive a bouquet on a day outside your birthday, anniversary or Valentines. Chocolates are sold year round buy me one on August 8th cuz you heard me say that I'm craving something sweet. I'm just saying here that if you are using Valentine's as a check list item in your requirements to pass for the year then you failed. Valentine's Day should be the garnish you add to a well decorated dish to give it extra flare. Will I do something on said day? Well your honor if a good event/activity comes up with a once a year price, I will consider it based on the fact that I cant pass up a good deal, the company doesn't hurt either. If i don't then.........meh who cares I get chocolates on August 8th. *shameless plug*

Dead Dad's Club

I will always remember watching this scene from Grey's Anatomy, it just struck me when she said, 'Welcome to the Dead Dad's Club'. To others it might sound kind of crass, someone died and you said welcome to the club, say what?
The other day I was in the presence of someone who lost their father. The woman was overwhelmed with all the calls and funeral plans. Another woman in the room said to her 'this will pass, we have all been through this. '  She started pointing us all out, members of the dead dad's club.
Being part of this club means you know what it means to go through the world a little more exposed a little less secure. There is just something about a father that makes you feel protected. And there is no other man in the world that can replace this lost feeling.
I used to get into fights with boyfriends and no matter what sometime afterward I would almost automatically think, if he were only here this would not happen. Irrational i know but the little girl in me always retreated to the place where a man with strong arms would lift me up and put me to bed after falling asleep from crying.
Being part of the dead dad's club means that you have already subscribed to the fact that he will not be there to walk you down the aisle. You have already wondered how you will make that walk without him.
It means that every time that blasted Luther Vandross song plays a lump grows in your throat. People in this club know to switch the chairs around the table so you don't remember someone is missing. It means that at some point when looking through photos from events in your life from graduations and so forth the man that anchors you and protects your side watches on from afar.
You believe this notion that a powerful guardian angel now whispers in the ears of God pleading for your protection.
I guess this post is simply for the purpose of saying if you are not in the club be thankful for the time you stay out of it. And to those who are in it, keep your head up.

Dear Religion......

So last year, although a really good year for me, it was a funny year when it came to religion/spirituality... you know that sort of stuff. I've always had a sort of peace knowing that God/Jesus is somewhere up there and that He knew me and heard my late night mutterings, and on our own terms we had a friendship. I always acknowledged the fact to say thank you and the notion to ask for help when times were rough. Last year for some reason for voices of religious opinion, interpretation and reasoning were extremely loud, nagging and depressing. I kind of felt like i was being told how to be, think and live and if i was outside that box....well my poor soul. In fact at one point i felt that i was not up to scratch. I guess i lost my footing and i let those voices confuse and get to me, making me forget the things I believe and almost just give up. Now this is MY opinion, some may say to each their own, some may pray for my soul (thanks I always appreciate prayers) and some may agree.

Firstly i dont agree or believe in religion it causes more separation than unity. And in religion i also group denominations and anything else that makes people who allegedly believe in the same thing feel divided. With that said although i go to church regularly i don't identify myself in terms of the name on the gate of a building.

I believe that the bible is a good guide book to life. However i think it is highly misinterpreted, tampered with and misused. From what i've grown up seeing the bible is used as a tool of convenience to instruct and control. My biggest problem is that it is used as the only way. You can't tell me that God is all a powerful being and then say that everything he intends for me is captured/explained in 1000 pages, don't sound logical. God is in our essence. The bible is used to justify everything. Oh there's a war- end of days, financial collapse- end of days, hole in the ozone-end of days.......umm how about you start taking care of the earth we were given and stop saying its ending so it doesn't matter....that's crap...its falling apart cuz we don't care. There are many issues outside of the bible/religion that we need to pay attention to instead of making the church a bubble that many people live in. Why were we placed on the earth? *sorry side note*
Remember the movie 'Book of Eli'? Remember how that bad guy was in search of the bible so he could use it to control people? That made so much sense, for in a way that is how it has been used.  I think that people are truly like sheep we need guidance and someone to tell us what to do, where to go, how to act etc. Even if you don't believe in anything there is a prescribed way to atheism. I think we are born with an innate sense to believe in something and to follow. What you believe in and prescribe to depends on what part of the world you grew up in, your race, and your mindset.
I am told we are all sinners, we all make mistakes etc. But it bothers me that some claim to be better than others because they are more 'holy', if sin is sin is sin then what makes you different?

I believe in love, and since God is love then its all the same. Im convinced that if everyone loved each other more friend, foe or stranger the earth would be a better place. If we loved and respected each other there would be no reason to steal, to kill, to abuse or molest. There would be no greed, war or racism.
I am no where near perfect (last i heard no 1 is), some frown at me and give me side eyes and some appreciate me and the light i bring to being around them. I believe, i pray and i have faith. I don't hide who I am or what i do. I don't or can't tell people who is burning in hell and who is going heaven's way. I don't think we have the right to condemn because we are not all knowing. I don't think we should think or talk for God. I think that people should be real and stop hiding behind religion.
I don't know if i'm right or wrong who really know, because everyone thinks they are right. Everyone thinks their way is the right and only way..... *side note* why do we take pleasure in thinking we are right and the people on that side of the world are wrong -nah nah boo boo, ur going down. I think we are all different for a reason.

Ok I've said a lot .....just love, respect and give thanks.

Happy 2012

Happy New year to my readers and friends!
After reflecting on my post 365 days ago and the mindset i planned to have i would like to say, mission accomplished! Green Pastures-check, Blue skies-check, unmeasurable hope-check, check. I think 2011 turned out pretty well for me, and I feel like my faith in the things unseen and hope in the things asked for is what brought me through. And that led to my pretty awesome year.
Dear 2012, there doesn't seem to be a lot of optimism about you. But i don't rest my hope on predictions and statistics. Life is what you make it and i intend to make it awesome. My mantra for this year is to 'Let it Be' i focus too much on trying to figure things out. I try to control things that are completely out of my hands and i try to push for things that are not ready to be......so I'm going to Let it be!
No resolutions really in terms of getting things done things come up, opportunities present themselves and I just need to take them and ride it out.

Once again
Peace & Blessings from the Moondancer
Happy New Year :)

Merry Christmas

Indeed Christmas has become commercialized the fat dude in a suit, merchandising, merchandising, partying, and more merchandising. Yes of course some greedy person always has to come in and spoil a good thing. But that doesn't mean we have to let it overpower the real meaning. Christmas is about pausing to recognize a special event in history whether you agree or not on the time it happened. It's about celebrating a figure that represents LOVE. Christmas should be about love, giving, family, friends and togetherness. It's about not so much about receiving or giving the perfect gift as it is about seeing your loved one smile because you took time out your busy schedule to get something you thought they would like. To me this is what Christmas is about. So for a little while forget about the bills, the recession, the diet and the pile of work you left at your office. Take time to give thanks for this season for the people around you and the love they give.

From me to you I say thanks for the love, God bless and Merry Christmas xoxo

I wanna write for Cosmo!

Oh look she's in a writing mood!
Ok so lately I've been....well not that lately...but I've been reading magazines more online mostly. What's with all the dumb ass articles that fill women magazines? And where can i sign up to write for one? I wanna get paid for pulling things out my ass! Seriously who made Katerina Isinberg (if you exist hun no offense) an expert on how to make a man happy? Has she dated a large enough variety of men to be able to know how every possible man in the world operates?
Oh please tell me why Amanda Rose knows 50 ways to prove he's in love with you? How come this chick knows. Or more like how come this chick gets paid to make up stuff and do random google searches for useless facts?
Further more how come men are not writing these articles? Wouldn't they know most of all how their minds operate? Women's mags tend to try and add like 1 'men's point of view' page to appease this query.

Why we keep buying these publications is beyond me. The big titles are usually dumb stuff like how to turn him on, how to be sexy, figure out what he's thinking. If this is a women's magazine why is half the content about getting, keeping and pleasing a man? I think a bunch of men should start their own magazine giving advice for women cuz clearly its a hot commodity. Hire the usual fashion consultant, nutrionist and ob-gyn for pertinent stuff and the rest, just have at it. Tell us why we are still single, tell us where to meet 'good' men, give us catchy pick up lines......hold a sec are these topics in men's magazines?
Lets look at a random GQ cover ...nope nothing about where to meet wife material. We have some celeb interviews, gadget reviews, fashions, and just a little subtitle about looking at pics of sexy girls. Looks like some good reading to me....maybe i'll subscribe to GQ lol

Let's look at a woman's magazine......so i went to google cosmo covers and saw this trend i had to screen capture. Every other cover has the word sex bolded and enlarged..... and we have topics like between his thighs, 3 signs he's about to cheat (like this is universal!), his biggest sex secrets (hmm i wonder what chick wrote that), Is he normal down there (isn't that his problem?).  Oh this one from Glamor sounds good why he didn't friend you on Facebook (do tell!)

So after watching Miss Representation I wonder if it is that the big bad media is so controlling or if we have just brain washed ourselves. These magazines strive because we buy them, we write for them...what am i missing? Don't get me wrong there are some women's magazines that are about women stuff, not as popular clearly. In the meantime stop buying the dunce ones that tell you things you already know! Im just saying lol.

21

Geez I've been quiet eh? Dont worry frequent posts are back again....well frequent enough... ok imma get this thing back up and running ya?!  But on real my computer's being a real behind! And I had a writing obligation that i no longer have *back to writing for me* 

Yes now shall we begin with the most bias post ever? Yes lets proceed.

I have not listened to every album released this year so I say this with no authority.....
21 by Adele was the best album of 2011!! *drops confetti* She deserves all 6 grammys! I done talk!
*breaking news 21 is the biggest selling UK album of the 21st century* Numbers dont lie!!
I began my love affair with this amazing woman after I heard her first ever track Chasing Pavement. I had to know who, what, why and where, you I'm a lyrics woman! After hearing the first track of 21 'Rolling in the deep' i almost fell out my chair i was so ready for this album. Then I heard her track by track explanation...gahhhh sheer genius! Dear Sir who broke this chick's heart I hope you enjoy this constant reminder of your stupidity! Please walk with me as I share my fav tracks on this album of the year.
Rolling in the Deep
Her screw you life was good over here, you blew it, go about your way young sir song!
Fav verse
'Throw your soul through every open door
Count your blessings to find what you look for
Turn my sorrow into treasured gold
You pay me back in kind and reap just what you sow'


Turning Tables
My heart.... this woman put her foot in these songs eh? Anyways this song captures that feeling when you are in a relationship that just turns toxic and controlling. I dont know what to say man.... her voice is so clear and honest in this song I feel her literally choking in this song. Then she gets to the chorus 'I cant keep up with your turning tables under your thumb I cant breathe...' and u sit mellowed and kinda sad....
Fav verse
'Under haunted skies I see, ooh,
Where love is lost, your ghost is found,
I braved a hundred storms to leave you,
As hard as you try, no, I will never be knocked down'

Dont You Remember
*cue the tears* Whenever I hear this song I can just imagine someone standing in the rain crying at the door step of their used to be love asking 'dont you remember?' There's no pain like regret... dang lady you make grown people cry
Fav verse
'Why don't you remember?
Don't you remember?
The reason you loved me before,
Baby, please remember me once more,
When will I see you again?

Set Fire to the Rain
After hearing her reason behind writing this song I decided to make us kindred soul sisters, cuz she's all knowing and all feeling. Its the song about the rebound relationship, the kind that takes advantage of the weak minded. So she takes control and sets fire to the rain aka empowering herself by walking away, chasing pavements, setting fire to rain! Girl!
Fav verse
My hands they were strong, but my knees were far too weak,
To stand in your arms without falling to your feet,
But there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true,
And the games you'd play, you would always win, always win.

One and Only
You know when you find that someone that you really want but they are apprehensive for whatever reason about being in a relationship? Yea well you can play this song to them. She just reassures aggressively with a touch of soul why you should give her a chance.
Fav verse
I don't know why I'm scared,
'Cause I've been here before,
Every feeling, every word,
I've imagined it all,
You'll never know if you never try,
To forget your past and simply be mine,

Someone like you
You are not human if this song didnt touch you in all kind of deep places *get your mind out the gutter!* What can I say she sings the fears of many an abandoned lover who shows up years later hoping to find their old flame there with open arms. Instead they are happy and settled, and you are alone and sad. Her performance at the Brit Awards ....... words cant begin to express the feelings she was going thru in front of millions, its like she feels this song more than the others.
Fav verse
Don't forget me
I beg
I remember you said
Sometimes it lasts in love
But sometimes it hurts instead
Sometimes it lasts in love

*Warning this album has been known to cause extreme sadness....but dammit when last has some music touched you like that* 6 grammys...the oracle has spoken!!